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There was this guy who believed very much in himself,seeking for his perfect girl and decided to take his time to wait for his right girl to appear.
He believed that there would definitely be someone special out there for him, but none came.
Every year at Christmas, the girl he has rejected and who is still so in love with him wholeheartedly would return from Vancouver to look him up. He was aware of how she feels for him and that she held some hope kindling a romance with him. However, he felt she is still not the right one.He did not wish to mislead her in any way. So he would always get one of his girl friends to pose as his steady whenever she came back.
That went on for several years and each year, the guy would get a different girl to pose as his romantic interest. So whenever the girl came to visit him, she would be led into believing that it was all over between her and the guy. The girl took all those rather well, often trying to casually tease him about his different girlfriends, or so, as it seemed! In fact, the girl often wept in secret whenever she saw him with another girl, but she was too proud to admit it. Still, every Christmas, she returned, hoping to re-kindle some form of romance. But each time, she returned to Vancouver feeling disappointed.
Finally she decided that she could not play that game any longer. Therefore, she confronted him and professed that after all those years, he was still the only man that she had ever loved. Although the guy knew of her feelings for him, he was still taken back and have never expected her to react that way. He always thought that she would slowly forget about him over time and come to terms that it was all over between them. Although he was touched by her undying love for him and wanted so much to accept her, he remembered why he rejected her in the first place-she was not the one he wanted. So he hardened his heart and turned her down cruelly. Since then, three years have passed and the girl never return anymore. They never even wrote to each other. The guy went on with his life..... still searching for the one but somehow deep inside him, he missed the girl.
On the Christmas of 2003, he went to his friend's party alone. "Hey, how come all alone this year? Where are all your girlfriends? What happened to that Vancouver babe who joins you every Christmas?", asked one of his friend. He felt warm and comforted by his friend's queries about her, still he just surged on.
Then, he came upon one of his many girlfriends whom he once requested to pose as his steady. He wanted so much to ignore her ..... not that he was impolite, but because at that moment, he just didn't feel comfortable with those girlfriends anymore. It was almost like he was being judged by them. The girl saw him and shouted across the floor for him. Unable to avoid her, he went up to acknowledge her.
"Hi......how are you? Enjoying the party?" the girl asked.
"Sure.....yeah!", he replied.
She was slightly tipsy..... must be from the whiskey on her hand. She continued,
"Why...? Don't you need someone to pose as your girlfriend this year?"
Then he answered, "No, there is no need for that anymore......"
Before he can continue, he was interrupted, "Oh yes! Must have found a girlfriend! You haven't been searching for one for the past years, right?" The man looked up, as if he has struck gold, his face beamed and looked directly at the drunken girl.
He replied, "Yes......you are right! I haven't been looking for anyone for the past years."
With that, the man darted across the floor and out the door, leaving the lady in much bewilderment. He finally realized that he has already found his dream girl, and she was.....the Vancouver girl all along! The drunken lady has said something that awoken him.
All along he has found his girl. That was why he did not bother to look further when he realized she was not coming back. It was not any specific girl he was seeking! It was perfection that he wanted, and yes.....perfection!!
Relationship is something both parties should work on. Realizing that he had let away someone so important in his life, he decided to call her immediately. His whole mind was flooded with fear. He was afraid that she might have found someone new or no longer had the same feelings anymore..... For once, he felt the fear of losing someone.
As it was Christmas eve, the line was quite hard to get through, especially an overseas call. He tried again and again, never giving up. Finally, he got through......precisely at 1200 midnight. He confessed his love for her and the girl was moved to tears. It seemed that she never got over him. But.......
She asked "What took you so long...............?"
She confessed that she has been trying so hard to get over him for the last 2 years and was waiting for him... never wanted to give up.....but last year she has met a wonderful guy who has loved and really treated her well...they have even decided to get married in the next couple of months later...
Before she hanged up the phone, still crying she said "If you have called me earlier......
You take care, my friend..i will still miss you."
He was totally devastated, he couldn't believe what he has just heard.
He was a complete loss.
Why did fate played such cruel with him?
He cursed himself! How he hated himself....for taking so long to realize his mistake!!
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Well, a simple story it may be...
So how do you feel about this guy ?? Self-centered? Selfish ?
It takes you so long to realize who you need, and it's not always the person you want to need
It's amazing the things you realize when you lose someone: you get mad at yourself for not saying the things you could've a million times, you take for granted the days spent doing nothing when you could have been with them. Anyone can be taken, at any time in our lives, but we always wait until they're gone to say the things we never had the courage to before
Ask yourself this question and answer it honestly :
"When you are happy, who would you want to share your happiness with?" The one you think of is someone you love.
Ask yourself another question and answer it honestly :
"When you are sad, who you want to share your burden with?" The one you think of is also someone you love.
If you think of the same person when you are happy & sad, that's the most perfect. But if you don't think of the same person, I would advise you to chose the one you are willing to share your sadness with.
In life, there are more sorrows than happiness. There are too many people that u meet that u can share your happiness with, not necessary your lover.
Of course, I will be very happy if I am the first person to share his happiness. But, if he is sad, I will be too willing to stay by his side & ease his pain. Only then, will I believe that I hold a very important position in his heart ?
When the person is always around you, you tend to take him/her for granted..but when he/she is gone, you then realise that you do need him/her..the worst way to miss someone is when they are right next to you and you know you can't have them, but it's worse when you thought you didn't want them anymore and then all of a sudden you realize you can't live without them..
Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, those who still believe, even though they have been betrayed and those who still love even though they've been hurt before. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people, before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the right person, we should know how to be grateful for that gift.
It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But, what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past ... you can't go on in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches...How many people can actually achieve that ?
However, Treasure what you have...
Time is too slow for those who wait.
Too swift for those who fear,
Too long for those who grief,
Too short for those who rejoice
But for those who love...Time is Eternity.
Its hard to pretend you love someone when you don't but its harder to pretend that you don't love someone when you really do
There are times when you cant decide whether to see the person you love or not, you want to see him/her because you miss the person but there are times when you will feel you dont want to see that person because everytime you do, the fact that the person dont see the way that you see, they hurts you even more
For all you out there with someone special in your heart, cherish that person, cherish every moment that you spend together that special someone, for in life, anything can happen anytime. You may painfully regret, only to realise that it is too late......
I believe the saddest thing in life, is caring so much for someone and then one day you look into their eyes and listen to them talk and realize that they are gone. All you see in front of you is a stranger with just a known name
Never take someone for granted. Hold every person close
to your heart because you might wake up one day and realize that you've lost a
diamond while you were too busy collecting stones
Sherr|ne 
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